Research from the Enneagram Institue
Threes are self-assured, attractive, and charming. Ambitious, competent, and energetic, they can also be status-conscious and highly driven for advancement. They are diplomatic and poised, but can also be overly concerned with their image and what others think of them. They typically have problems with workaholism and competitiveness. At their Best: self-accepting, authentic, everything they seem to beārole models who inspire others.
- Basic Fear: Of being worthless
- Basic Desire: To feel valuable and worthwhile
- Enneagram Three with a Two-Wing: “The Charmer”
- Enneagram Three with a Four-Wing: “The Professional”
Key Motivations: Want to be affirmed, to distinguish themselves from others, to have attention, to be admired, and to impress others.
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Color: Gray
Instrument: Cello
Music: Classical, punk
Drink: espresso
Food: Sichuan Boiled Beef
Musician: Borodin
Jerryās Book Introduction
After the tuning subsided, she took her seat in the semicircle of elite musicians who surrounded the conductorās podium. Jerry, sitting opposite her, gave a quick thumbs up. Warmth spread to her cheeks. Was it the lights? Or something more?
āYouāve got this,ā he mouthed.
āThanks,ā she mouthed back. Her knotted muscles began to unwind. He often had this effect on her. In contrast to her nerves, he always possessed a relaxed air at concerts. Handsome in his tux, black hair combed back, he resembled a younger version of the renowned cellist Yo-Yo Ma. Victoria met the dark eyes that sparkled behind large-rimmed glasses.
āWhat about you?ā Matt turned to Jerry. āWhat do you play?ā
Jerry jolted back, surprised the guy had taken any interest in him. He tapped his large case. āCello.ā
āCan you knock out a decent bass line?ā Matt asked.
āSure.ā Jerry shrugged.
Matt clapped him on the back. āThen why donāt you join us, too?ā
āCouldnāt hurt to try.ā Jerry peeled himself off the couch to follow the guitarist. Maybe heād score a couple extra cool points playing with the guy.
The trio climbed onto the stage, instruments in hand. Mattās voice boomed into the microphone. āLadies and gents, a couple of guests will join me for my next song. On the fiddle, we haveā¦ā He handed the mic to Adrienne.
She cleared her throat. āAdrienne Pearson.ā
Jerry winced. Viola, not fiddle.
āAnd on bassā¦ā He held the mic to Jerry.
Cello, not bass. But he could play the part. Imitate the double bass players heād watched in jazz combos. He leaned forward. āJerry Chang.ā
When Matt began to croon, Jerry plucked the strings of his cello with his forefinger. Maybe try a slap bass move. As he clapped his instrument in rhythm, the pulse of the music breathed new life into him, a sense of freedom. Although heād never played the tune before, it turned out easy to pick up. Basic harmonic progression.
His gaze moved to Victoria, who smiled and waved. Too bad she wanted to move to New York for graduate school next year. And heād be off to medical school wherever he could get in. His heart plummeted. Four more years of grueling education, not to mention residency after that. But Mom and Dad insisted it was the best path.
āMusicās not a good career for you,ā his mom had lectured. āWe music professors get paid horribly. Be a radiologist like your father. Youāll make good money.ā
If thatās what she believed, why had she insisted he practice three hours every day growing up, just to rip music away from him?